Considering the global human international situation, our job is becoming more more important but also quite difficult to manage.
I try to explain: as soon as a person feels in difficulty, with the partner, with kids and family, at work and in public, this person contacts the therapist, going there to feel relieved.
The message is strong: I want you to solve my problem, I feel uncomfortable, sad, lost: I want you to give me the pleasure to be alive, the joy to be myself in this world.
These expectations are high, fair, and I respect all this.
The problem is simply that a superficial solution, taken without examining together the roots of the deep difficulties and symptoms, might create heavy side effects without solving the sense of being lost and distant.
When I refuse “to go fast” offering easy solutions, like thinking of a special kind of training to get better, like : “ repeat several phases as a mantra and your mind will learn the best behavior for the future…” if I say that this isn’t the best approach to recover, many times the patient is not happy at all, not convinced.
I learned that this is the phase in which I can start explaining and offering the proper guidance to the patient.
It’s just after a while that my client realizes that something is slightly changing in his everyday mood, in his approach towards people, life, and even the deep connection with the Ego is getting better.
Again, in this very moment, the person in front of me in my office might start smiling, telling me: “Probably I was ok, I feel better now. Maybe everything was fine even before starting the therapy. We did nothing, but strangely enough , I feel good.
May be you can give me an explanation of what happened, I need to know”.
And the need for rational control is still there, strong and continuous, because the patient is still subconsciously so afraid to leave my studio and venture outside in the fog …
It’s time, then , to explain that the best result of a therapy is to be able to express freely, without rigidity, entering a flow where your deep authentic personality will lead you, safe and strong, through life, feeling ready to face the thunder and the fog.
Because within you, finally, there’s the clarity of a new connection with the person you are.
Such a simple, but true, message sounds so difficult to absorb, because we don’t trust, we just want to find the key, the easy recipe to make it better….
Questions are uncomfortable, the path to discover your Self can be hard, but without it we’ll continue to be blind.
Just shadows in a grey scenario, made of bubbles where we stay still, in solitude and silence.
These cages can be glamorous and superficially promising, but inside , the emptiness creates distance, and the “Human” disappears.
Considering the global human international situation, our job is becoming more more important but also quite difficult to manage.
I try to explain: as soon as a person feels in difficulty, with the partner, with kids and family, at work and in public, this person contacts the therapist, going there to feel relieved.
The message is strong: I want you to solve my problem, I feel uncomfortable, sad, lost: I want you to give me the pleasure to be alive, the joy to be myself in this world.
These expectations are high, fair, and I respect all this.
The problem is simply that a superficial solution, taken without examining together the roots of the deep difficulties and symptoms, might create heavy side effects without solving the sense of being lost and distant.
When I refuse “to go fast” offering easy solutions, like thinking of a special kind of training to get better, like : “ repeat several phases as a mantra and your mind will learn the best behavior for the future…” if I say that this isn’t the best approach to recover, many times the patient is not happy at all, not convinced.
I learned that this is the phase in which I can start explaining and offering the proper guidance to the patient.
It’s just after a while that my client realizes that something is slightly changing in his everyday mood, in his approach towards people, life, and even the deep connection with the Ego is getting better.
Again, in this very moment, the person in front of me in my office might start smiling, telling me: “Probably I was ok, I feel better now. Maybe everything was fine even before starting the therapy. We did nothing, but strangely enough , I feel good.
May be you can give me an explanation of what happened, I need to know”.
And the need for rational control is still there, strong and continuous, because the patient is still subconsciously so afraid to leave my studio and venture outside in the fog …
It’s time, then , to explain that the best result of a therapy is to be able to express freely, without rigidity, entering a flow where your deep authentic personality will lead you, safe and strong, through life, feeling ready to face the thunder and the fog.
Because within you, finally, there’s the clarity of a new connection with the person you are.
Such a simple, but true, message sounds so difficult to absorb, because we don’t trust, we just want to find the key, the easy recipe to make it better….
Questions are uncomfortable, the path to discover your Self can be hard, but without it we’ll continue to be blind.
Just shadows in a grey scenario, made of bubbles where we stay still, in solitude and silence.
These cages can be glamorous and superficially promising, but inside , the emptiness creates distance, and the “Human” disappears.
Let’s not make this happen, let’s open the big book of life and not the little easy video with the proper answer to any question. Because by doing that we would just open fake doors with useless keys, while we think we are in control…
Let’s not make this happen, let’s open the big book of life and not the little easy video with the proper answer to any question. Because by doing that we would just open fake doors with useless keys, while we think we are in control…